What How to Love Me helps you remember is that you already are valuable. You already are valued. You already are loved, and you have instant and constant access to that feeling of being loved we all so fervently seek. Your relationship with yourself is your only relationship. All other relationships reflect it. The checker at the market, other drivers in traffic, government officials, your parents and your crush are all behaving according to your vibrational energy. The people in your life can only ever act according to your expectations and the emotions that come along with those expectations.